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Thursday, December 11, 2008
Thursday, December 4, 2008
50th birthday
This past weekend was my Mom's 50th birthday. Melanie and I drove down to Toronto on Thursday after she finished her morning class. It was a good drive down, I got there in about 5 hours or so.
We stayed in the Oakville Monte Carlo Inn, which was clean but was a little... cheesy. Mel wanted something a little more special so I booked us a room with a jacuzzi. This turned out to be pretty much useless though as it was way too small and when it was on it was like having a jet engine in the room.
The party itself went well my grandfather had flown into town for the party and with my Aunt and Sister both living in the GTA we had most of the familly all together. AS well my mom had an old friend from her undergrad days come who I hadnt seen in over 10 years.
The following day we all got a late start and on the fly decided to go on a drive to Niagra. My mom was not very pleased with the whole situation but didnt really voice anything till we reached the first destination a small vineyard. Kerry (my Aunt) had mentioned she wanted to stop at a couple wineries on the way down and at the time there was no protests. But suffice to say my mother was not pleased and for the most part waited outside while we were perusing the selection of wines.
By the time we got back to town my mother was not in a good mood at all and this spilled over onto the next day. She was connstantly going over and over about several injustices but mostly foccused on the previous days events. I tried to play peacemaker and mentioned that she didnt say she didnt want to do that and to be fair to Kerry she did say she wanted to stop at these places before we left. It didnt relaly matter though my mother was very unhappy.
Melanie and I had planned to leave early that morning (Sun) so that we could get back to Montreal while it was still light out and Mel could still get in some studying. My mom was supposed to go with my Aunt and my Grandfather to go see my sister. Robin (my sister) called on the drive over and I beleive said that she couldnt see them as she had to work. This was the straw that broke the camels back and again my mom started ranting about the previous days events (among other things I better not get into!)
I had had enough at this point and told her as much. Which as you might imagine didnt go over all that well. At this point we were at my Aunts but my mom didnt want to see anyone anymore and got out of the car. I was fuming. I left and drove around the block and claled my Aunt to let her know my mkom would not be joining them and then drive down to where my mom was and parked and went to speak to her.
Then I found out that she still is resentful of my leaving home (15 years ago!) and that I dont call her enough although she also doesnt call me. Suffice to say there is some communication lacking between us and I think this has hurt her although she refuses to let me know. I mean cmon 15 years to mention this? It is in my mind ancient history, there are lots of things from when I was growing up I could be resentfull for but where does that get anyone? /sigh.
I ended up getting my mom back in the car and she just wanted to go to the airport. I dropped her off at about 11AM for her 3PM flight and then drive back up to Montreal in a better position then earlier but I think there is some wounds that need to be healed.
Whatever happens or is said I always love my mom. She sacrificed so much when my sister and I were growing up. I can never thank her enough.
Happy Birthday mom!! I hope our next meeting will go a lot better then the last one.
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